I enjoyed a nice breakfast at IHOP this morning with a friend. He is a few years older than Mr. D. His fiftieth birthday is right around the corner. My forty-fifth trip around the sun was not too long ago.
As I was sitting back and sipping my coffee, I asked him, "so what are your dreams?" An invigorating discussion ensued.
All of you twenty and thirty something folks are dreamers. I know because I was one of you once ;-)
You young guns may be wondering, do folks in their forties still dream. Answer: we do. We may not spend as much time dreaming as we used to, but we still dream.
In my own case, my dreams have changed. In my twenties, I dreamed of starting a company and becoming a person of influence. In my thirties, my dreams shifted. I began to think more in terms of how I could use my giftedness in ways that would have the biggest impact for the kingdom of God.
Now, in my forties, my dreams have shifted once again. My dreams are simpler now. I always thought that mature folks had simpler dreams because of the corrective nature of reality. In other words, you begin to realize that by forty, certain things are no longer possible. But I have personally not found that be true.
My dreams are simpler. But it is not because I don't think things are possible. I think my dreams are simpler because I see the sublimity of simplicity. I know that sounds bizarre, so allow me to unpack it. I think we tend to over complicate things in life. In our desire to make a name for ourselves, and an identity for ourselves, we set out to accomplish things. Even Christians fall into this. We want to do great things for God, right?
What I have found in life is a deeper truth, however. Our identity does not come from what we have accomplished, or how much influence we have, or how much security we think we have. Our identity comes from relationships. Ultimately, it is our union with Christ that identifies us -- or our lack of union with Christ as the case may be. All else is chaff.
That has really simplified things for me. My dreams now center around one thing, primarily. That one thing is relationships.
My dreams are for my relationship with God, my relationship with my wife, my relationships with my kids, and my kids relationship with God. I dream for each of them to have a healthy marriage with a fellow follower of Christ. I dream for each of them to know how wonderful it is to be married to someone who you can really trust.
Simple, huh?
So what are your dreams?