From the blogger who gave us the unforgettable series, "the purpose driven secs life", comes a new post simply entitled Secs Is Good.
[ok, so my spelling is a little off ... but it keeps away unwanted search engine queries]
It seems inconceivable that Christians are forced to defend the view that God actually approves of marital secs. After all, God invented it. Nevertheless, the perception exists both in the church and in the culture that Christians ought to think secs even within marriage is dirty. After all, the topic is always discussed in negative terms.
One solution to the problem is for Christian parents to be open and honest with their kids. Is it uncomfortable? Sure. But don't let that stop you, parent. Give them the Biblical view before they imbibe the culture's twisted views on secs.
I have to tip my hat to my own Dad in this regard. He did not duck the issue. When I was a teenager, we had long talks about it ... and he didn't dance around the awkwardness of the subject. He was open, honest and let me know that God invented it, and it was good. He also warned me of the dangers of deviating from God's design. What a gift for a father to give to his son -- the willingness to endure the awkwardness and discomfort of the moment in order to teach me the truth.
As I talk to other men about it, it seems my experience with my Dad is the exception, not the norm. The norm is for Christian fathers to say nothing. It is no wonder Christian kids grow up with confused ideas. Fathers, don't do that to your children.
This is an excellent point. Neither of my Catholic parents ever had "the talk" with me, and most of my friends (Christian or not) never had "the talk," either.
But extend the concept beyond just the family. This is why I argue that open, honest "secs" education in general is important. The problem with relying on parents to convey the information is that many of them simply don't do so.
Of course, in the context of public education, teaching the moral aspects becomes much more problematic, in particular because our society encompasses such a wide range of moral views on "secs." But this doesn't detract from our ability to teach at least the mechanics and the inherent risks involved.
Posted by: tgirsch | June 07, 2006 at 11:51
I understand where you are coming from, T.
I was obviously addressing Christian fathers in this post ... there really is no excuse for *not* explaining what God thinks about sex (that it is beautiful, wonderful, and fun in marriage). Christian kids grow up with mostly negative teaching about it -- they need to hear the full Biblical teaching about it lest they get the wrong idea.
Posted by: Mr. Dawntreader | June 08, 2006 at 00:06